The death of a loved one can be very devastating. Regrettably, grief is an unavoidable and inescapable part of life. The loss of the loved one affects people in different ways. There’s no right or wrong way to feel.

One might feel a lot of emotions at once, or feel as if they are having a good day or even feel nothing at all and feel the worse again! Such powerful feelings can come unexpectedly, like the waves on the beach that you see come and touch your knees and instead the waves up so high that they knock you off.

Experts generally accept that there are four stages of grief and one probably goes through all these stages:

• accepting the loss
• experiencing or feeling the pain of grief
• adjusting to live life without their beloved or the one who died
• putting less emotional energy into grieving and putting into something new and positive, in other words, moving on!
• Time is the biggest healer of all the things, other things simply help the time to pass by easily.

Throughout this time one might feel:

• shock, which is the first reaction to death
• devastating sadness, with lots and lots of crying
• exhaustion or tiredness
• anger, towards God whom they think stole their loved ones or towards the person whom they think left them alone.
• guilt, about something said or left unsaid and not being having a chance to do it anymore.

Such feelings are perfectly normal! In fact these negative feelings do not make one a bad person, as a lot of people feel guilty about their actions which is totally acceptable! On the other hand, some people tend to be forgetful and it gets hard for them to concentrate. They might lose things like keys or glasses or anything that they use on a daily basis. The reason behind it is that their mind is distracted by the grief and not because they are getting insane!

Talking always helps, talking to someone and sharing your feelings and even memories that they have of their beloved, helps to vent out. It is advised for them to not go through it alone. Yet, when they don’t prefer talking to someone from the family or friends, they are not grieving, which can affect the individual mentally and physically.

Seeking help from a professional here can help as grief counseling provides various benefits. It helps one develop new skills and learn more about self and life. It also helps, one grow stronger even after what they had gone through. It can help anyone who had gone through a major loss. Furthermore, for some cases, it is crucial to help as for them it get overwhelmingly intense and affects their daily functioning and so grief counseling is the only way out.